Me after finally replying to the six people who messaged me: amazing. I am so great I love getting back to people
Me when they all reply immediately: goodnight for now I’ll get back to you in the next couple days I’m going on vacation with limited access to emails please do not CC me
the scenes of dani confronting christian when he didn’t tell her about the trip vs josh confronting christian when he’s trying to steal his thesis idea are very telling
dani knows that christian treats her badly. she knows exactly what he’s doing when he gaslights her. but the difference between dani and josh is that josh has the luxury of not suppressing his anger at christian. dani makes herself small and amicable for christian because a. women are taught that they’re not allowed to be angry and b. dani feels that she’s better off in an emotionally manipulative relationship than being left alone. josh calling christian out was cathartic because it’s what the audience wishes dani could have been able to do. this isn’t to say that dani is weak. she is simply molded by society’s expectations for women. she tries extremely hard to not seem needy, even when she’s going through things that are understandably taxing. midsommar portrays the pain of existing as a woman so accurately it hurts. ari aster…..somehow gets it.
boys and men will try to convince you that humans are intrinsically selfish and egotistical because they can’t cope with the fact that women are actually taught from birth to put their community, their friends, their family, everyone on equal (sometimes even higher) footing.
male individualism is completely dependent on the emotional labour of women, and whenever you try to point this out they act like you’re denying basic human facts
